The rest of the day

After everything came out, she was happy. You could see a difference instantly. We were able to enjoy some good times chatting and joking around. Laura, Josie and I realized we had not eaten all day so headed to the Canadian Honker and left the rest to continue chatting.

As part of our big conversation, we were suppose to meet with the social worker. We waited from 8am-1:50 pm and contacted him twice waiting for him. We finally go to lunch, get our drinks and place our order and guess who shows up...stinking social worker. So, we try to have the conversation over the phone with him. As we start talking to him we realize that he has absolutely no idea what was going on. Now, I can't remember if I mentioned that our first social worker was in a bike accident and went to the hospital and our second social worker had a long vacation, so we are on our third. We were promised that the new guy would know it all, but of course not. So, we ate our lunch and then headed back to the hospital. When we got there, it got heated quite quickly with the social worker. I believe that the yelling and stern voices, increased mom's anxiety. Now, as I just said right now as reliving this moment, "Wouldn't a good social worker had realized that his client was getting anxious and either stopped the conversation or say that we would step outside?! Yeah, well whatever, we still don't have placement, but overall we decided that who cares we like her in the hospital.

Day without any tubes--

Of course with all the tubes out, we were unable to fight the inevitable...her stomach started to fill up. Due to the yelling at the social worker and the realization that her stomach was filling up, she became quite anxious and labeled her pain a ten. She did not have adequate coverage for pain medicine, she was unable to get the fluid out, and she was filled with anxiety. It was quite the rough patch, I mean she was literally writhing in pain. However, in hindsight, her pain and anxiety were probably caused by us yelling at the social worker. Once we all shut up, she began to calm down and fell asleep. All she needed to do was calm down and realize that the medicine was there and just needed to work. Whew...finally asleep and comfortable. Laura and I decided we needed some time away, so we headed out for a bit. On our way out we ran into her doctor, who had already changed some things up with her pain meds. They increased the amount of Adavan (helps reduce anxiety and relax) and the amount of morphine. They put the Adavan on a scheduled dose, so she no longer had control of taking it. This was because she would him and haw with the doctors and end up not taking the drugs. They also increased the meds on her patch.

So, as the day progressed, Marj has been resting comfortably with her pains meds working well. She hung out with her sister Marsha and her niece Josie, while Frankie, Sandy, Laura and I went out to dinner. Tonight because she was resting comfortably we all decided to try and rest as well. So, I suppose that is what I should be getting ready to do considering it is 12:30am here. So, I believe that is all that happened today. It was a stressful day because of continued worry, but we can say that we ended the day in comfort. I am going to take some Tylenol PM, so I can hopefully rest in comfort.

On a side note, at one point today, as I looked around the room and everyone was stressed out and haggered looking I said, "When do you think the doctors come to access us and give us our medications?" I mean seriously between headaches, not sleeping, anxiety, nervousness, and all around bitchiness, I need some meds!!